It really is a tell-no-one deal. I have to move my plants soon because everyone and their mother knows I'm growing here. Growing is a thing you do secretly at your house in a place where people don't visit, you know. It's hard if you live in an apartment or with other people, impossible I often recommend. If you're willing to grow you also have to be willing to suffer the consequences of it like everything else in life, right? Always hope it doesn't come to that, but I might have an idea for you. A couple years ago a man (not a friend for sure) wanted to join the police force, but he had once gone to jail for stealing a car so many years in the past. he couldn't join because he did that. He went to a lawyer to help him figure it out and the lawyer asked for $30,000 to fix his problem. The guy got money from his friends and family and gave it to the lawyer, the next week -that record was cleaner than rubbing alcohol. So, what am I saying? -Find a lawyer and find a will to change your issue.