Need Some advice...

Biggravy22

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so True.. but you have to take care of 'em... something i'm ashamed to say alot of us men don;t know how to do.. or just refuse to..

What it boils down to is ego. You have to drop that to be involved in a successful relationship. You have to put in the work, and be willing to do things you probably would have never done before. Being 100% involved is hard for a lot of guys because they're so worried there giving up something "worthwhile" when in reality you're not giving it up...just putting it on the back burner for someone more important. Funny thing is...when you find the one you wont even care.
 

Biggravy22

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Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, I'd debate that some, not always the case.

Love is like a box of chocolates you never know what you're gonna get. lol.
But if you're with someone good that shows from the beginning, and if you're lucky enough to find that person it's going to give you a return on that investment from the get-go. My marriage might not be perfect, but it's good, and it's strong. Funny thing is...I knew that even before we got married.
 

Bangers999

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Am losing this thread now, ok sit in with your wife man, half way through the night in that you always have youl be like, SHIT i wish i went out with the guys.
 

mnk007

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ok this is from a womans point of view.
You should take her out to an early dinner then after that go out with your friends.
that way you are doing what you want and what she wants and it looks like you are still intrested in hanging out with her but you are not going to ditch your plans. A man is sexier if he doesnt give in to a girls every wish.
hope it helps a bit!
ROFL Yeah, they sure make it seem like they are pissed though. Bitches! =[

And who said she wanted dinner anyways, he said something boring. So like ballet. Ew.
 

Bangers999

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This guy still has not made up his mind, his poor wife probably cant wait to get a night out with the girls, am joking dude, one word GO !
 

mahlye

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I would go out with my friends, especially if I'm always with my girl. me and my girlfriend have had things like this come up...and it always depends on how long it's been since I've been with my buddies. to me it sounds like you hardly get to see them and that you've been looking forward to hanging out. I think that if she really loved you that she would understand; she's your wife, but your still you and you should have time for yourself sometimes.
 

netpirate

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hey there gravy22, what do you think she would do in your position? personally when my (ex)b/f and i made separate plans and the others plans went to shit, we still went our separate ways. absence makes the heart grow fonder ya know. You do seem like a level headed guy and im sure you will make the sound decision. remember the whole part of going out with friends is to be away from each other for a while. she just wanted to chill with the girls and gossip. im sure she wont leave you for it. have fun!
 

guitarman7311

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Tell your wife to come over my house and give me a blow job 1st thing, then fire up an extremely large hooter of sum dank and laugh about what u just did. I will be gentle. Thanks. Any more advice you need u just holla k ???
 

netpirate

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Tell your wife to come over my house and give me a blow job 1st thing, then fire up an extremely large hooter of sum dank and laugh about what u just did. I will be gentle. Thanks. Any more advice you need u just holla k ???

aww. someone wants attention... whats wrong hun, some awesome girl break your heart.. toss off bub
 

Biggravy22

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Tell your wife to come over my house and give me a blow job 1st thing, then fire up an extremely large hooter of sum dank and laugh about what u just did. I will be gentle. Thanks. Any more advice you need u just holla k ???

You've been waiting your whole life to make a joke like this haven't you? It's cute...maybe one day you will find a girl desperate enough to touch your pee-pee.
 

Biggravy22

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hey there gravy22, what do you think she would do in your position? personally when my (ex)b/f and i made separate plans and the others plans went to shit, we still went our separate ways. absence makes the heart grow fonder ya know. You do seem like a level headed guy and im sure you will make the sound decision. remember the whole part of going out with friends is to be away from each other for a while. she just wanted to chill with the girls and gossip. im sure she wont leave you for it. have fun!


If she was in my position I'd want her to still go out. No questions asked. I just don't like hurting people...especially her.
 

Biggravy22

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I would go out with my friends, especially if I'm always with my girl. me and my girlfriend have had things like this come up...and it always depends on how long it's been since I've been with my buddies. to me it sounds like you hardly get to see them and that you've been looking forward to hanging out. I think that if she really loved you that she would understand; she's your wife, but your still you and you should have time for yourself sometimes.

Yeah it's been a while, and im just wanna head out with them, and get bombed. We operate alot on "Our" time, and I just wanted to do things on my own time. When I wanted, how I wanted, where I wanted...you know?

Oh and dude. The firecracker experience was awesome. It was a little hard to take down which sucks because Im a peanut butter guy, but once I did, and the effects set in it was great. It was like my brain was sober but my body was drunk, all I could do was laugh at how non-compliant my body was. It doesn't seem like an everyday kinda thing though.

+++++ rep for you.
 

Gryphonn

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So here it is...

My wife and I had seperate plans over the weekend. She was going to have a "ladies night", and I was gonna put on my frat boy costume and go partying with the fellas. So last night her friends pulled out on her. Yes I feel bad, getting ditched is never fun, but my plans were still intact. Now she wants me to ditch my plans and go out with her. Now if it weren't for the fact that I have zero interest in going where she wants to go, i'd be down. We're always together. Everytime we go out it's us. Go home it's us. I wanted some me time. She said it's cool, and she understands, but she gave me this disappointed look. I told her i'd forgo my plans but I really don't want to.

What should I do?

Suck it up and be a good husband and go out with my wife? Or establish my position, stick to my guns and head out with the fellas?

I really don't want to hurt her feelings.
Go somewhere or do something you'll both enjoy. Remember, 'the boys' won't be around forever. Your wife is your best friend and most likely will be there with you forever, through the ups and downs. Go out together like you were first dating or something. Fet romantic again even :)
 

Gryphonn

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My mind isn't made up. That's just the type of person I am. I'll look at both sides and play both of them until one makes more sense than the other. Im a contemplater and thinker. Hell I'll still be thinking about it come this weekend.
Like "Damn I should have just went out with the wife." or "Damn I should have went out with the boys...or "Damn I should have found a way to incorporate both." Im trying to find a solution to make both parties happy.
There can't be anything you're going to do with your mates that you can't do with your missus yeah? Grab some ale, some nice bud, some meat and salad and have a barbie somewhere (damn, it's snowiing where you are)...or something.

I dunno. I don't have that issue to deal with. With my ex, it was "I go with you or you stay home boy!" With Ph03nix, it just isn't an issue. We are a pair of 'Norman No Friends'. The close friends we do have are mutual friends that we both hang with or visit. I guess I'm the last person who should be offering advice really...but, if it *was* me, I'd be taking Ph03nix out with the boys as well.bongsmiliebongsmilie:peace::mrgreen:
 

Bangers999

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Tell your wife to come over my house and give me a blow job 1st thing, then fire up an extremely large hooter of sum dank and laugh about what u just did. I will be gentle. Thanks. Any more advice you need u just holla k ???
You should get an agent, why sit in the dark handling yourself.
 
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