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"If I order fem seeds and grow moms..are my clones from those moms likely to turn hermie?"
Only if the moms are hermies. Plants from feminized seeds are mostly sexually stable, if you get a plant from seed and a confirming clone that hermie then chop your mother. The clones will be exact genetic copies of the mother.
"If so, what are the chances?"
I've had piss poor luck with feminized but most reports are positive.
https://www.rollitup.org/seed-strain-reviews/182247-feminized-seeds-hermie-test-14-a.html
"Which genetics should I go with to avoid that at all cost...I mean does anyon know of any fem seeds that are more likely to go hermie then others? . I would prefer fem seeds but I'm willing to go through the sexing process to get really good genes."
I can only tell you who I had bad luck with, and those breeders could be fine by now. I have no opinion on feminized seeds other than I won't be buying any for a while. The upside of fem seeds is that the plants from seed are much more uniform than plants from regular seeds - translation: with feminized seeds you get a better chance of getting that great pheno that they used for the parent than you would from regular seeds.
"Alot of people have been saying to go with an Afghani dominant strain or "AFGHANI" but there's so many out there ... I get unsure about which one to pick. anyone reccomend a particular one? this is going to be an AERO SOG setup..."
If cost is no object and you're looking for a heavy indica stone, like from an afghani, I'd look strongly at
Endless Sky by
Dr Greenthumb: 42 day flower pheno, 500 g/m2 SOG, some say the most potent indica they've had.
I've grown two of Greenthumb's strains and I'll order Endless Sky when I want that heavy potent stone.
http://www.drgreenthumb.com/cannabis_seeds_GreenthumbSeedsEntrance.htm
http://www.seedbankupdate.com/su.html
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