Not Sure were to Post this - What do you tell your Children?

Well as a recent parent myself, (5 months old) I know I will one day need to be honest about growing.. (or do I)?

My old man grew, we never talked about it, everyone in the house knew it and knew not to talk about it without ever being told. Even through all the boy scout anti drug and Dare programs I had gone through I knew not to say anything without being told... Same with my sister and brother.

Now I want to be honest with my child, but do not want to put my family at any more risk then I already do jsut to have a personal stash for me and the very rare very occasional friend that may stop by.

How did you or did you talk to your children about weed, at what age what did oyu say?


I am not in a great medical state (NJ) Cant get a card and all that and dont really plan on moving away from here in this lifetime.
Thanks
Jriggs.

Seeing as how I have no children and probably won't for sometime (keeps fingers crossed) I can't really give you any real advice but hopefully by the time your child is ready for 'the talk' it'll legal all over the country and it won't be such a huge deal anymore Here's to hoping! Cheers!

idk man, this is a hard subject. i'd like to be able to be totally honest w/ mine but then again i dont want to lead them down the wrong path. here's a link to a thread i started in oct. last year about pretty much the same thing, it got a few replies.....https://www.rollitup.org/toke-n-talk/256592-smoke-not-smoke.html
really it boils down to u as a parent and wat u feel comfortable w/. i pretend like i'm smoking roll up cigs to my 3 and 6 yr old, but my 13 yr old knows wats up. but i allow my 3, and 6 yr old to see my garden, cause thats wat it is (wink) daddy's garden. my 13 yr old dont know anything bout it. so its basically like everything else in life, give and take. maybe some of this will help u along ur path Jriggs. peace.

On second thought, I guess it'd be something like how my dad dealt with him having a gun in the house. My brothers and I didn't know about it for 21 years, cause frankly, I don't think a child should know there's a gun in the house. But it's a lot harder to hide an entire garden, but I think the principal is there. You tell your kids you're growing weed, they think it's the coolest thing ever and tell their friends, and before you know it the entire fucking population of parents at your kid's school know you grow.. It's a slippery slope, but I'd say once your children are old enough to understand the implications of having such a garden, that's when you have the talk. Let them make up their own mind if they want to smoke it or not, but I'd say keep it as 'Daddy's Garden' until they're old enough to understand daddy going away to prison.

well i dont have children, but hear me out. my dad grew. and the way he told me was smart. (i think) he came straight out with it and said it was pot and hes growing it. i was just turning 13 btw. and he said, if i tell anyone that he would go to jail. and bad things would happen (which of course would) and that i have to keep this secret no matter what. it kind of scared me at the time.. but i understood. i respected my dad and he rewarded me with it.he let me help him whenever i wanted. he taught me everythign i know about weed. he let me grow my first plant when i was 14. i didnt start smoking until i was 15. and yes he was the first person i smoked with. and my bestfriend til this day. so what im trying to say is, i think if you can trust your kids and they arnt going to go tell someone then yes. id be open about it if they are mature children. let them know whats up and know everythign they should, about how its illigeal and how you can get into trouble and what happens if you abuse it. basically the dont be stupid talk. but also tell the truth about cannabis. and how it should be used. and if ur gonna use it while living with me its gonna be by my(ur) rules. and never never buy weed from a kid at school. thats where most people get busted. so i think, if your kids are smart, cool and down to earth tell them. but if you dont want your kid to smoke then i think you should wait till they get older. then tell them when they know the consequences and they are more mature. btw when i was 13 i was hanging out with my cousin and his friends they were about 15 to 16.. so i was a little more mature than most 13 yr olds.

Jakenbake said:

On second thought, I guess it'd be something like how my dad dealt with him having a gun in the house. My brothers and I didn't know about it for 21 years, cause frankly, I don't think a child should know there's a gun in the house. But it's a lot harder to hide an entire garden, but I think the principal is there. You tell your kids you're growing weed, they think it's the coolest thing ever and tell their friends, and before you know it the entire fucking population of parents at your kid's school know you grow.. It's a slippery slope, but I'd say once your children are old enough to understand the implications of having such a garden, that's when you have the talk. Let them make up their own mind if they want to smoke it or not, but I'd say keep it as 'Daddy's Garden' until they're old enough to understand daddy going away to prison.

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yes i agree make sure your kids are mature enough to understand.

Just heard on NPR that NJ is getting medical in 3 months

washington state is having a vote for legal marijuanna! doutb it will pass yet but soon.. very soon.

Nj is getting medical in 3 months -- its true -- but its some of hte stricktest MJ rules around -- The state will supply it, no personal growth and a very very short list of conditions you need to have to get a card... I wont be able to get a card.

But thank you for posts of how to deal with children everyone - I look forward to reading more.

KushisSweet said:

washington state is having a vote for legal marijuanna! doutb it will pass yet but soon.. very soon.

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Yeah I don't think they have enough signatures to even put it on the ballot though -.-.. I signed it though

I have this situation with my almost 10 yr old. I am a caregiver so obviously im leagal but I still dont want anybody to know what I do on my property. She is very interested in plants and gardening as well as I have raised her around my green thump of aquarium and house plants. I think it would be pretty cool to teach her the ropes of growing medicine but then again will she rattle at the teeth as she tells her friends? She asks questions like crazy too. She has seen some things laying around like my ladybug box quarantine box where I put clones I get to rid them of any pests. bulbs, and the hum of fans coming from the grow room. I feel like she should no so she doesnt ask other adults questions. IDK...Im lost!

marijuana + Children + Government = parental trouble.

Several parents I know have gone to the extent of not even smoking it until the kids turn 18.

im in jersey as well and we are way behind everyone else

im an old man and started to garden beginning of 09 my son was 19 what a fn narc telling me i should no be doing that and i could go to jail i told him if we all kept it a secrete no one is going to jailand i asked him when is last time cops came to our house answer was never he got the picture nothing else has ever been said he looked the other way for a while he would not even go into basemnt till now does not go in area of tent at all never wanted to even see i guess he does not have to lie but he does know

i remeber when this guy was in about the 4th grade i smoked cigs my son gave me so much hell and aggravation i stoped he did me a favor they had a thing at school showed them a pic of a smokers lungs and a non smoker told them about death rate and how it was a bad habbit and he preached every time he saw a cig

as long as no one says things like that about weed things like you will die you can deal with them but if they get scared about something they can be worst nightmare worst then your wife , your mother, and your priest all in one

good luck
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