No not a surprise. Its always the second payday of the month. I'm up at 5 am anyway. Its not the fact of me giving money that bothers me. My financial situation is not awesome right now. I have my 6 year old and a stepson that I've raised since he was 10 ( now his dad is a loser ass chump, and my wife is no where as annoying or bitchy like my ex) . Her ass is in a nice home all cozy n shit. She knows my situation. Its weird. Hard to explain. I was just venting. Because I know she relies on the money more than my kiddo. Me and my first born have no secrets. But is all good in the hood.
Considering the fucked up person I used to be and kinda still am. I applaud myself. I'm not a dead beat dad
If your kid is 14 or older it is very easy to get custody changed. If he/she wants to live with you that's all that matters. The judge will sign off on it expeditiously. Still probably cost ya a grand tho. for the lawyer.
One thing that troubles me about your statement is you saying "you have no secrets with your kid" . That's great and all but sometimes adult situations should be handled by the adults. Involving the children in such things only further complicates their young mixed up brain.
I don't know you and it sounds like you are trying to do the right thing....kudos for that.
I just deal with the wife's ex involving the kids in every little juicy detail of his fucked up life and I see how it is hard on them. Of course he always makes it look like we are the bad guys, and it sucks cuz I wanna tell them how he was an abusive alcoholic controlling asshole who did some pretty awful things to their mother when they were little.....but I can't cuz it wouldn't help the poor kids any knowing this.
There was no love lost after my parents divorced. My mother practically hated my dad but I never heard a cross word spoken. I am thankful for that. Kids should not be burdened by such trivial information, no matter how true it is.
You'll sleep longer that way.
