Random Jibber Jabber Thread

I know imma seem like a pussy to most of yall lol but I don't know who to ask about this so I decided to ask riu lol.. so I'm dating a girl with a great personality and great looks BUT she has two kids and is 5 years older than me. I'm barely 22, no kids, good job, car, and renting to own my own house. I got my shit together. Anyways I need a way to tell this girl that I want to stay friends but don't want a relationship with anybody. I hate to make people cry but don't know what else to do. Imma smoke a blunt to this lol somebody give some advice.
 
Hepheastus420 said:
I know imma seem like a pussy to most of yall lol but I don't know who to ask about this so I decided to ask riu lol.. so I'm dating a girl with a great personality and great looks BUT she has two kids and is 5 years older than me. I'm barely 22, no kids, good job, car, and renting to own my own house. I got my shit together. Anyways I need a way to tell this girl that I want to stay friends but don't want a relationship with anybody. I hate to make people cry but don't know what else to do. Imma smoke a blunt to this lol somebody give some advice.
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No easy way to do that champ, but she probably understands, Im in her situation I expect any one I get involved to do what you are going to do and she probably does to, that does not mean it wont hurt her.
Just be honest you are going to feel like a douche while doing it, which is normal, but there is no other way to go about, it is the right thing to do.
 
ChingOwn said:
No easy way to do that champ, but she probably understands, Im in her situation I expect any one I get involved to do what you are going to do and she probably does to, that does not mean it wont hurt her.
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I know it will hurt her.. this sucks. You're a single father?
 
she has kids, she will get over it, her priorities are her children most likely.
breaks up hurt, but you move on. its inevitable you will upset her

not sure what having your shit together has to do with not wanting to date a chick.
Just tell her straight up, string her along and it'll be worse.
 
ChingOwn said:
yup 2 kids
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How old are you?
If I was a single father I wouldn't care if people just wanted to date without commitment because I know my kids would be my only concern. But at the same time I guess it would start causing some emotional pain after a while of being through so much shit. Fuuccckkk
 
sunni said:
she has kids, she will get over it, her priorities are her children most likely.
breaks up hurt, but you move on. its inevitable you will upset her

not sure what having your shit together has to do with not wanting to date a chick.
Just tell her straight up, string her along and it'll be worse.
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If I was her age with kids of my own I'd be limited to what she's limited too. But as of now we have a lot of differences that wouldn't hold her back from what she wants to do in life but would sure hold me back. That's why I mentioned it. But thanks for the advice
 
Hepheastus420 said:
If I was her age with kids of my own I'd be limited to what she's limited too. But as of now we have a lot of differences that wouldn't hold her back from what she wants to do in life but would sure hold me back. That's why I mentioned it. But thanks for the advice
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the sooner you do it the easier she'll take it.. dont drag her along, just be honest with her and do it nicely
 
Hepheastus420 said:
How old are you?
If I was a single father I wouldn't care if people just wanted to date without commitment because I know my kids would be my only concern. But at the same time I guess it would start causing some emotional pain after a while of being through so much shit. Fuuccckkk
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33 I get some weekends with no kids but, Ive given up I half start seeing ladies then give them up cause I know that making them part of my life would just be a bad thing for them, they still have their freedom and I cant take that.
 
srh88 said:
the sooner you do it the easier she'll take it.. dont drag her along, just be honest with her and do it nicely
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Yea that's true. I never tried dragging her along but I can tell she's getting a lot of feelings towards me. I just don't want to have to invite her over only to sit with her and let her down. Like I said I never tried leading her on but I guess it ended up where I'm at now. I guess I'll do it today, gonna suck. Another question do you guys think it'll hurt her more for me to try staying friends or should I just let her go completely?
 
Hepheastus420 said:
Yea that's true. I never tried dragging her along but I can tell she's getting a lot of feelings towards me. I just don't want to have to invite her over only to sit with her and let her down. Like I said I never tried leading her on but I guess it ended up where I'm at now. I guess I'll do it today, gonna suck. Another question do you guys think it'll hurt her more for me to try staying friends or should I just let her go completely?
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Dont invite her to your house take her to lunch or do it someplace public less chance of them breaking down in a crowd, you can mention the friend thing girls always want to stay friends, which is dumb but whatever.
 
ChingOwn said:
Dont invite her to your house take her to lunch or do it someplace public less chance of them breaking down in a crowd, you can mention the friend thing girls always want to stay friends, which is dumb but whatever.
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Man even you make me feel like a dick. But yea you're right. I appreciate the advice chingown
 
ChingOwn said:
Dont invite her to your house take her to lunch or do it someplace public less chance of them breaking down in a crowd, you can mention the friend thing girls always want to stay friends, which is dumb but whatever.
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in public?
i disagree with that...
its embarrassing to be told youre being broken up with in public....its like you can feel everyones eyes burning at your head/back even though realistically they probably didnt hear anything
and when you do start crying youre even more embarrassed because it was publicly and than people notice.
 
I was thinking of calling her and say something along the lines of "hey I need to talk to you about us and our expectations" just so she knows when she sees me later that it's not gonna be a date type of thing this time.. because if I just tell her let's go somewhere together she'll assume it's gonna be a great day


Also, sorry for bothering you guys with this
 
sunni said:
in public?
i disagree with that...
its embarrassing to be told youre being broken up with in public....its like you can feel everyones eyes burning at your head/back even though realistically they probably didnt hear anything
and when you do start crying youre even more embarrassed because it was publicly and than people notice.
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Its no win situation at least in public both parties have the option of just getting up and walking away not true if you at your own house.
 
420God said:
Just text her. :razz:
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ChingOwn said:
Its no win situation at least in public both parties have the option of just getting up and walking away not true if you at your own house.
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To make it worse her car got jacked the other day so she'd need me to give her a ride back. FML.. I was thinking of just going to her house
 
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