I'm pretty sure its just a myth about males turning your pretty girls male or hermie. hahaha they just get her pregnant ;P and full of seeds. which seeds technically is not a bad thing. you can use seeds for alot of useful things.
so i think you had a male all along. please dont try to blame a neighbor, its not nice especially since you wouldnt want the them blaming you for the same thing.
O of course you can smoke the male.... But all you are going to get is a really bad headache and a regret of ever doing it.
i dont know if you can do it with a male but i bet you can make butter, oil or hash out of all the clippings but don't qoute me on that.