would you let your teens smoke if you found out....

I won't mind if they start smoking in College or around 17/18. Unlike most here that's when I started. However, if anything (weed, booze, girls, etc) ever hinders them from reaching their full potential in school or whatever, then there will be some consequences. Life is about balance, too much of one thing just isn't right, even marijuana.

I'd defo let my kids smoke all they wanted. Hell, I'd probably teach them how to grow it! See, marijuana isn't a bad thing; people who do criminal things while using it irresponsibly are what make people think it's bad. It's like alcohol; a gentleman uses it in moderation, but a loser drinks to get drunk. See? I'm only 18 and planning to start my first guerilla grow, but I don't want my kids risking getting in trouble this way. I'd let them grow it inside. (it's what i'd do if i weren't still living with my parents.)

goten said:

for you who have kids..when they grow up to be teenagers would you let them smoke if you found out that they were doing it anyway?? i ask because of my fucked up father!!
i grew running away all the time on the streets of portsmouth and norfolk va. cuz my dad would beat the shit out of me since i was like 6yrs.old i did not move to n.c untill i was 17.
i started smokein pot when i was probley about 13-14. they didnt know it though. i dont think they found out about it until i was maybe 15. and they would tell me not to do it and shit and how bad it was. but i never cared what my dad said cuz he had beat me so i could careless my mom was a different story.
but i still smoke anyway. when they would catch me with it they would take it and say that they was going to through it away or flush it down the toilet. well one day they took my stash and said their fushin it. so the next night they left to go somewhere ( caint really remember where )but i went to their room to find some cash to make for them takin my stash. and damn to my surprise i found my shit.. almost all gone they been smokein their selfs( whats up with that? ) dont tell me not to smoke and its bad just to take it from me like a thief in the night for your own gain!
but anyway if i found out my kids where smokein when they where teens and they where going to do it anyway id probly just let them do it at home and ask them just to do it at home. cuz theirs to much bullshit for them to get caught up in on the streets. so at least if they were at home i know that they were safe. and not out gettin into shit and maybe gettin a phone call sayin i need to pick my son/daughter from the police staition.. what would you do??

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I new a straight A student in high school that got those grades because for every 'A' he brought home, he got an oz of bud.
I'll discourage my daughter from doing it, but if I bust her more then once, then at that point I can bitch all I want, she's just going to do it when I'm not looking, just like I did. Not only will I let her smoke at home, I'll be getting her weed. I don't want her dealing with some stupid ass kids that don't know how to do business and might jack her or get her busted. And, at that point, I would probably enact that same reward program that that kids parents did, an oz for every 'A'.

I first smoked out my daughter when she was 17 and my son when he was about 21. It's nothing for us to pass a big bowl between us now. Call me crazy but I believe that smoking cannabis is good for you.

If he/she is old enough to smoke, then he/she's old enough to get a job.

Hepheastus420 said:

If he/she is old enough to smoke, then he/she's old enough to get a job.

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so...how many kids you got?

I smoked with my son and his friends cause they all thought I was just a cool ole head stoner. I tried to tell them...everything in moderation...and there's a time and place for getting ripped and one for being stone cold sober.

did it with my younger bro, he was 16 when he started smoking. (i did not try to stand in his way (he would just have gone behind my back (if he wanted it enough)

just told him everything i knew about drugs.

seems to have worked out fine.

i went behind my fathers back and lost respect and love for him, none of his goddamn business what i do with my body anyway.
i aint about to repeat his fearful henmother mistakes.

shiit.. the kid went to alcohol and that would be fine lol (actually worse than heroin)
but worrying about them and weed? lol, you gots to be fuxxing kidding me.

plus, i wouldnt worry about my kid , even on alcohol (or heroin) i wouldnt worry about myself and its My kid (well, unless they were more like their mother, then id advise them to stay the fuck away from drugs (drugs are not for everyone mmmk? )

sso said:

did it with my younger bro, he was 16 when he started smoking. (i did not try to stand in his way (he would just have gone behind my back (if he wanted it enough)

just told him everything i knew about drugs.

seems to have worked out fine.

i went behind my fathers back and lost respect and love for him, none of his goddamn business what i do with my body anyway.
i aint about to repeat his fearful henmother mistakes.

shiit.. the kid went to alcohol and that would be fine lol (actually worse than heroin)
but worrying about them and weed? lol, you gots to be fuxxing kidding me.

plus, i wouldnt worry about my kid , even on alcohol (or heroin) i wouldnt worry about myself and its My kid (well, unless they were more like their mother, then id advise them to stay the fuck away from drugs (drugs are not for everyone mmmk? )

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I can tell you don't have kids. People that don't have kids always know how best to raise them. Kids don't come with instruction manuals and the advice you get is usually worth very little. Every child has different needs and no two are alike in the way they need to be raised. It's the toughest, most unthankful job a parent can ever have. Kids are a money pit and they will stomp a mudhole in your heart. Parents do not know how to communicate to their kids, most of the time. Their intent is good but most really suck at communicating that.

guessing from your geography you are black yes? + i would not let my kids smoke if they are already stupid.lol

once they have a job i would let them cuz you cant find a job today with dirty piss



PS:hows that light rail

potpimp said:

I can tell you don't have kids. People that don't have kids always know how best to raise them. Kids don't come with instruction manuals and the advice you get is usually worth very little. Every child has different needs and no two are alike in the way they need to be raised. It's the toughest, most unthankful job a parent can ever have. Kids are a money pit and they will stomp a mudhole in your heart. Parents do not know how to communicate to their kids, most of the time. Their intent is good but most really suck at communicating that.

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†LOL† I've noticed a few threads now about parental advice, filled with people with strong opinions about what makes a good/bad parent, mostly from people that don't have kids. I don't think you should be allowed to give parenting advice unless you have kids. Even then, like you said, no two kids are the same, so even that advice is going to be just shy of useless. But at least then it comes from a position of knowing how thankless and confusing it really is.

I can't say my parents had good intent towards me. She admitted to resenting me from the day I was born. Not in a moment of anger either, she disowned me 6 times like that, but in a calm casual, no drama setting. Just in passing, told my soon to be wife that she had resented me from the day I was born. I will say most parents, even most bad parents, do.

RavenMochi said:

†LOL† I've noticed a few threads now about parental advice, filled with people with strong opinions about what makes a good/bad parent, mostly from people that don't have kids. I don't think you should be allowed to give parenting advice unless you have kids. Even then, like you said, no two kids are the same, so even that advice is going to be just shy of useless. But at least then it comes from a position of knowing how thankless and confusing it really is.

I can't say my parents had good intent towards me. She admitted to resenting me from the day I was born. Not in a moment of anger either, she disowned me 6 times like that, but in a calm casual, no drama setting. Just in passing, told my soon to be wife that she had resented me from the day I was born. I will say most parents, even most bad parents, do.

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I can't wrap my mind around that. I can't comprehend disowning my own child, not that I would even try to empathize with the emotions. I have an aunt that married into my wife's family and her mother disowned her - for no reason. It's like something blew out in her brain because of this particular child. She had other children and didn't disown them. It really screwed my aunt up.

Getting parental advice from someone that has never raised children is like asking for weight loss advice from a fat person.

I'd be pretty open about most things with my kids and try to encourage them to have their own strong moral compass- they should be able to stop and think themselves about what they are going to do, not ask themselves whether I will just yell at them for it. I was always so scared of parents I never told them anything and it's caused many problems...

I'd hope that my kid wouldn't smoke pot behind my back or without talking to me in the first place. As others have said, I'd rather supervise and seriously quiz them over their knowledge of marijuana, exactly why they're using it, what kind of effects they are after- just if they are using it responsibly. If they reply with 'I don't know what it is, my friend got it from a Rastafarian in Brixton (London Ghettoland) and I don't care as long as it gets me shitfaced' then I wouldn't be too happy about that kind of attitude at all. If they're mature about it and it doesn't get in the way of school, then it's fine by me. That's how it is with my mother at the moment. I toke all day but I MUST NOT let my grades slip or neglect household chores.

No. No, I wouldn't. I wouldn't beat them, but I would tell them that it is for adults and once they are adults they can do what they want. Till then, you are under my roof...

I think this has a lot to do with what goten would do if his children loved weed and turned into 24/7 stoners?

Would the children consider that the father was in one sense being a hypocrite? He did after all smoke from an early age himself. Okay I agree that weed isn`t a good idea from ages below 18 and there are bad parts to it, but what if the children weren`t bothered about those parts?

I hope that once your children piss you off you won`t turn into a grumpy old man like your father. I find myself a lot like my father ever since we argued and I left 15 months ago... Its like I`m half him whatever the fuck I do, and hating him is hating myself

But thats just the worst outcome. I say help them locate their interests in life firmly before any drugs are put into the equation.

Also bare in mind the children may make friends who do other drugs such as psychedelics combined with weed, how would that change the scale?

All my ideas just to think about

My parents made drugs look like the devil until 18 and then we all grew and smoked pot 24/7 together. I found that the most necessary parts I needed to be told about were

They made it clear how easy it was to become a dealer,
How people often get caught,
Made the real bad drugs & habits clear (meth, crack and heroin)

I wouldn`t mind if my son was a pothead as long as he was a cool one. If he lost interest in school I would always look ways around that to get him into school when he was older but I wouldn`t hate him for it, just go hang with him lots to get away from my future wife I guess

screw it im a pothead. they can smoke as long as the first thing they smoke and there after is from me or some source i know whats going into the plant. as for arrests i would never get pissed id roll up there with a joint in my mouth get my kid out and stand on their side my kid will know im going to stick up for them. hell even if they just busted a window.

potpimp said:

I can tell you don't have kids. People that don't have kids always know how best to raise them. Kids don't come with instruction manuals and the advice you get is usually worth very little. Every child has different needs and no two are alike in the way they need to be raised. It's the toughest, most unthankful job a parent can ever have. Kids are a money pit and they will stomp a mudhole in your heart. Parents do not know how to communicate to their kids, most of the time. Their intent is good but most really suck at communicating that.

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quite right , dont have a kid, i do know kids though.

and can communicate quite easily with them (the trick is just to talk to them same as any people)
but about my possible future teen smoking weed, i dont see the problem. (well, unless i got a idiot kid)
course, its all going to change my views on this, once i have a kid , lol Everyone that has a kid, says so.

thing is though..

often people fuck up raising their kids, through fear.

dunno though,,,.thankless job? kids are not a job.. i took care not having any kids, why? cause i didnt want any. wont have any either, unless i want to.
and then its not a job..

raising up a kid, requires money, thats just so..

stomp a hole through your heart? well, not really their fault, kids are willful and go their own way and thats just right.
they always know best too, till they wise up.

i guess the trick is learning to let them make their own mistakes (sure wouldnt want to repeat my daddies mistakes..)
cant protect them from anything really, specially not themselves.

cant really protect yourself either, just take precautions and teach those to your kids and hope they dont fuck up too badly getting to those same conclusions if they dont listen..

i personally hate not being able to go my own way and id presume my kid was the same. also if they had half my brains, id not worry about them.
d´be silly.

and btw, my younger brother(s), im more of a father to them, than our father (im actually kinda of his daddy now)
and im not giving anyone advice nor telling them how to do it.

im sharing my bloody thoughts about this. and btw my bro has a kid and after i gave them some thoughts on raising kids, they´ve been doing much better and the kid too.
(they werent giving him enough attention and yelling when he was acting up to get attention, i just gave him a hug and a talk, eye to eye. and then with them)