thanx guys.. the wilted one i only water when, like you said, the pot feels empty... i even check the bottom to notice any wet soil..it seems to dry quite quickly, so i guess i water it every 2-3 days.. maybe ill try less watering..the problem for me is i never know if the soil is actually DRYYYY especially when its in the big pots... i put gravel at the bottom of the pots for better irrigation which makes it heavier too, so its hard to tell... do you think that moisture meter is worth getting, will it indicate the moisture inside well? so far i've just been sticking a chopstick in there all the way to the bottom, pulling it out and seeing if there's wet soil on it, but im sure im harming some roots on the way in..