A double dresser would be good..its your own property, hang your clothes instead. Do a sea of green with 1ft plants and a 250w/400w. i say you pull 4-8ounces a cycle.
I feel you should consider yourself before criticism. At the end of the day the only person that gives a shit about your health or you in general is yourself and your partner. Nobody goes to bed thinking "i wonder how doingdishs is feeling?, wonder if he/she is ok..." unfortunate but true.
I hope you decide to take it into your own hands, good luck.