The worst thing to do is turn your back on her,I'm telling you man get her some help,or you will get a visit to your home by officers saying she is dead.
I lost a step-daughter to drugs and alcohol. Rehab didn't work. Nothing worked. Her mother was her albatross and ended up giving her her finally dosage. She died on her mother's floor while her mother was passed out.
Then her mother's friend died the same way in her co-op less than a month later. Then another friend died there too, a few weeks beyond that.
Without a complete change, I personally, don't see a good outcome. I'm sorry. I have seen some inwardly strong people who have beaten that monster, but not many.
Your sister will be in my prayers.
(OPTIONS)
1.Never give up on her,until she finally realizes that she indeed needs the help.
2.Fuck her,let her die.
She needs prison or a metal health facility that doesn't let her leave imo. Otherwise she'll just continue to use and have no reason to stop.
I've never seen anyone get as out of control hysterical as her, multiple times. At first I had no clue why someone would act like that, now it seems pretty clear, mental issues + no reason to be optimistic about the future other than to continue using + drugs = one unstable person.
Are you unfamiliar with our Bucky? He simply delights in well-placed crassness. Don't take it seriously, is my advice. cn
Hey, calm down guys...It's Buck...He can't control it, he has his trollfingers on.
at some point though, doesn't it just get worn out and predictable? doe he not see that it is worn out and predictable? at what point does one look at themselves and realize, yeah, it is kinda worn out?
i bet he giggles every time he hits "post reply".
To all those who say to "cut ties" with her...You DO realize that any somewhat attractive young woman doesn't need her family for support, and if she's as good at the lying and manipulation as Pada says, her family giving her the cold shoulder WILL just make her harbor resentment. But it's not going to break the addiction. She'll bounce from one dealer to another, using her body to get free drugs and a place to stay. She's gonna be all used up by 30, probably wind up with a disease from sharing needles(if she doesn't slam already, she will if you kick her out) or unprotected sex. But it's relatively easy for girls to find drugs, a place to stay, and a bite to eat(or 'ensure' to drink, for you tweekers)
@ Elfood, I'm afraid that approach won't work.
At this point, I feel no love for her and I can't fake it. She's a psychotic, abusive, emotional train wreck. She needs to do time in prison or a mental health facility.
I believe she acts like this and is the way she is because she sees no light at the end of the tunnel, so in her mind "fuck it, why not?". What job could she get with her limited skill set, criminal background, and substance abuse problems? Probably not even at a fast food place. Not only that, she doesn't want a job, she's content draining everyone elses resources.
She's been like this my whole life as far as I can remember, and has been abusing drugs since she was 15, not including marijuana which she first tried at 12 or 13. All of her friends are just like her, the ones that aren't don't speak to her because they're smart enough to know she'll only drag them down, too.
She uses everything against you, before any of this happened and when I used to experiment with other things like MDMA, even gave her some one time for free, then during an argument between her and my dad and I, just to get out of it, she told him. I didn't speak to her for 2 months after that. I drink occasionally, if I tried to ask her about her substance abuse problems, she'd bring that up and call me an alcoholic..
She's a BITCH. I can't stand her. She expects everything to be fine the next day after she has one of her episodes. Meanwhile, I feel disgusted just looking at her.
I feel guilty not really caring what happens to her, the only thing I'm really worried about is what would happen to both of my parents if something happened to her.
Yes I am very sad to hear this because I know what you and your family goes through sadly enough our family member died , but not after a couple of decades of these situations . Armed crack dealers went to my cousins house - tied him up in a chair at gunpoint after kicking the door in and traded him the drivers licence of my other cousin for his television set . They said it was for the $250 of crack they had fronted til friday and they just couldnt wait til then . It was on a monday or a tuesday when this happened . Nothing we did stopped it . Eventually I gave up on trying to help and banished my cousin from my life . He was dead within a year and I feel like crap to this day about the whole thing .26 years old, 1 DUI, 3 or 4 drunk in public charges, 1 11550 (under the influence of a controlled substance), 1 car totaled, multiple fights, 4 iPhones lost/destroyed because of it all, no HS diploma, no GED, no job..
I just got back with my dad from picking her up from her boyfriends house, completely wasted, incoherent, hysterical. She called my mom, told her 'someone was threatening her with a knife', my mom called my dad, him and I went up there, she got in the car and made it two blocks before jumping out because my dad was angry and telling her she needs to stop this shit. Right now she's likely getting arrested and going to jail.
Two days ago, a cop came to our house and arrested her for a warrant. She was supposed to go to DIU classes that she never attended. Let her out a day later on OR.
Previous antics;
-Driving her car directly off a 9' embankment into a field, missing a telephone pole by 6' (would have been killed, no doubt about it), calling me 2 town over in the middle of the night to pick her up from a strangers house she met while walking to a gas station (because she left her phone, purse, and even her fucking shoes behind in the car), my girlfriend and I picked her up and she was so fucked up she couldn't even remember where her car was, it took us 45 minutes to finally find it. The inside was completely covered in mud and the front dash was basically detached from the rest of the car, wouldn't start, so we called a tow truck, waited an hour and a half for it to arrive (in the rain), I was so pissed I sat outside the car in the rain just so I didn't have to look at her or speak to her. Tow truck arrives and doesn't have the equipment to get it out of the ditch, we would have had to wait another 3 or 4 hours for a different truck to get there, I said fuck that and we left.
-Middle of the night, I was asleep on the couch, she came in, completely hammered again, and started hitting the keyboard on my computer hard enough to wake me up, I told her to calm down, we ended up getting into an argument and she got physical, I called the cops, they gave her the choice to go to jail for the night or go to a friends house, she got some of her stuff and went to a friends house. 5 hours later, she came back, just as fucked up and did the exact same thing again. This time I woke up and it got physical again, she tore my shirt off my body and hit me in the face, I picked her up and dragged her outside, called the cops again, same two guys came back and took her to jail. She spent 5 days in jail, came back and gave me some half assed apology I knew she didn't mean.
-11am, I'm on the computer, she wakes up, can't find something, I think it was her cigarettes, tears the house apart looking for them while getting more and more pissed off each passing minute, after long enough, I finally can't take it anymore, tell her to calm the fuck down, that lit the fuse, and again we were at it. She hit me in the face and spit on my face, I threw her the fuck out, again. I forget how that ended.. I think she just left..
-Crashed her car while drunk, totaled it, right after my dad put money into it to replace the damage she did to it when she crashed into that field, $500+, he paid for and fixed it himself and she crashed it less than a month later..
Oh yeah..
-She came home absolutely plastered, again, with a previous boyfriend, he asked us to take her because he couldn't deal with her, she didn't want to leave, this all happened right in front of our apartment complex in the middle of the night. She kicked his dash and broke off his gear shift so he couldn't leave, he had to leave his vehicle there and call someone to come get him. She was hysterical, again, came inside, kept it up for another 30 minutes, then passed out. When asked about it the next morning, she said she didn't remember any of it..
..and that's just scratching the surface..
What is the right course of action to take? I have no idea what to do about this, otherwise I wouldn't be posting about it on this forum, it's really pretty damn embarrassing..
Anyone ever dealt with a person like this before?